Gay Marriage

So in researching this topic I discovered something. Gay marriage is not in the bible, anywhere. When homosexuality is mentioned, it speaks of the act of homosexual sex, not marriage. Hummmm I thought the bible was clear on this point. Maybe we need to take another look. If the bible is silent on an issue, does that mean it condones it? Of course not. Silence tells us nothing. When the bible is silent on a large issue, the way to discover truth is to break it down into its parts and see if you can find something it does speak on. Sometimes the bible is silent because the problem didn’t exist at the time. That’s why we don’t have verses on the dangers of texting and driving….. Is gay marriage a new idea then? According to wikipedia it has been around for a long time. ( It is debatable that the  writers of the bible were aware of it however. That leaves us still asking the question. What does the bible say on this issue? Let’s break it down into its parts and see what we find. 

Truth Test 1 : What does the bible say about marriage?

“For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man”. (Romans 7:2, 3 NKJV) 

Marriage is life long.

“But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion”. (I Corinthians 7:8, 9 NKJV)

Marriage is the only righteous way to experience sex.

“Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge”. (Hebrews 13:4 NKJV)

Marriage should be honored and partners should remain faithful to each other. 

Truth Test 2: When marriage is mentioned in the bible, who is it between?

“………..And he gave him as a wife Asenath, the daughter of Poti-Pherah………”(Genesis 41:45 NKJV)

“Now the men of Israel had sworn an oath at Mizpah, saying, “None of us shall give his daughter to Benjamin as a wife.” ” (Judges 21:1 NKJV)

There are many more examples, but each one is between one man and one woman, or one man and multiple women. Now here is a problem. Not all marriages listed in the bible are righteous. We know that polygamy is sinful, but David, Jacob, and, Solomon to name a few had multiple wives. “And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines; and his wives turned away his heart”. (I Kings 11:3, 4 NKJV)  Just because it’s listed in the bible doesn’t make it right or wrong. We have to keep digging.

Perhaps we can find an answer by looking at the role of marriage. 

Truth Test 3: What does marriage do? What is its purpose? 

As we discovered earlier, marriage is a life long commitment to another person. Homosexual and heterosexual relationships can both fulfill that role. 

Marriage produces children. Ah. Here is something. Homosexual relationships can’t produce children. It  must then be sinful. “Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had borne him no children”. (Genesis 16:1 NKJV) Be careful of this argument. Many good God fearing people just simply can’t have kids. That doesn’t make their marriage sinful. 

Marriage is for sexual intimacy……..  Ok, we may be on to something. The bible does speak about homosexual sex. As we have seen in previous posts, homosexual sex is sinful. ” But heterosexual marriages are full of adultery, and others abuses that are also sinful”. That’s true, but adultery is when a marriage goes wrong. Sex with your spouse is when marriages go right. It’s a part of what marriages are. Sex with your spouse is one of the greatest joys of marriage, and it cannot be separated from a definition of it. Sex and marriage are closely tied in scripture. It speaks of sex for procreation “Now Adam knew Eve his wife, and she conceived and bore Cain” (Genesis 4:1 NKJV) and for fun and intimacy. (Song of Solomon……the entire book) With this close connection of sex and marriage, homosexual marriages would have to include sex in order to fulfill its purpose. This is why I believe gay marriage is sinful. In order to exist it must include sin. 

Truth Test 4: Should gay marriage be legal?

Just because something is sinful doesn’t mean it should be illegal. However, I’m not certain it’s the governments place to redefine something as old as marriage. Since the current debate includes politics, I have to ask. What is the biblical purpose of government? “For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to evil. Do you want to be unafraid of the authority? Do what is good, and you will have praise from the same. For he is God’s minister to you for good. But if you do evil, be afraid; for he does not bear the sword in vain; for he is God’s minister, an avenger to execute wrath on him who practices evil”.(Romans 13:3, 4 NKJV) It sounds like the governments role is an enforcer of morality, not the creator of it. 

This last portion is purely my opinion, but I felt it necessary to include it. Should homosexual couples enjoy the same legal status as the rest of us? First of all, I don’t think the government should be in the marrying business.  I cringe when I hear “By the power vested in me by the state of…..”. As if the state has a say in a covenant between two people and God. I do believe that the government should be in the civil union business, and I do think homosexual couples should be allowed to get a civil union. This gives them protections under law that I believe are good, such as a say in end of life care and the like. I’m not singling homosexuals out here. I think all marriages should be civil unions in the eyes of the government. Let the power of declaring a marriage be in the hands of the church. With that said, if the church does not recognize a marriage on the basis of sexual orientation, the government should not force them to recognize it either. Please leave a comment. This is a topic that needs to be debated.


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4 responses to “Gay Marriage

  1. I can agree to so much of what you say (finally someone with common sense!) and it’s unfortunate my family doesn’t see it like that. When I’ve asked my mom’s opinion on gay marriage, she says “The lord says a man shall not lay with another man, as he sees is as an abomination, for that is not what we were created for.” I think this is the reason I have lately strayed from God. I grew up in a strict Christian home, but how can I follow a God when I am constantly told I have no rights to my own happy family just because of my sexual orientation? I realize it is dubbed as a sin, and it makes me sad that I just can’t be what “god wants”. But I feel as I feel, and I don’t want to live my life alone, especially if I find a wonderful partner some day. I’ve been told by Christian friends who do know my orientation that believing such a thing is selfish of me, and I should do everything God asks. I guess that’s just not a God I want to worship.. I grew up hearing how loving and merciful and caring and fatherly and wonderful God is, only to grew up and feel like I’m dirt in his eyes or something. That and reading some of the things he did before Jesus was born.. it doesn’t sound like a loving God to me at all. Sorry for the long comment. If ya have anything to add, please do! I’d love to hear your opinion.

  2. Thank you for commenting. First of all, you are not dirt in the eyes of God. He loves you a lot. He died for you. Your sin is taken care of completely. Keep in mind that homosexual sex is sinful, but temptation to sin is not. If you choose to engage in homosexual sex, you will be committing sin, but we all sin. We all need what Jesus did for us on the cross. All of us have a sin that is part of who we are. Some people love to gossip. Some love sex, alcohol, or food too much. The point is, Jesus isn’t here to condemn us. He is here to forgive us. That’s what the cross did. When Jesus confronted the men trying to stone to death the prostitute He said “He who is without sin cast the first stone.” No one did. After they left one by one, He then asked the woman “Where are your accusers?” Finally He said “Nor do I accuse you. Go and sin no more.” This is a picture of our relationship to God and sin. We all sin. Because of our sin, God sent His son to take the punishment for us so that we could be with him in heaven. Our gratitude and love for him leads us to repentance of our sins. Repentance is simply a turning away of our sinfulness. In His mercy however He doesn’t expect us to repent all at once. He works with us on a daily basis throughout our entire lives. If and when he convicts you of homosexual sex, he will do so when you are ready and not a moment before. No mater how you respond to his conviction, He will still take you just as you are. He loves you deeply. Your sin cannot separate you from Him. Please know that I am praying for you. You are deeply loved by God.

  3. Concerned Person in the World

    Ick. Just ick. What a load of hate filled garbage. And you do realize that girl’s screen name has the word SUICIDE in it. So yeah, great idea telling her that she’s sinning and she will be “convicted” by “Him”. How about some “you’re perfect as you are” and “it’s nobody’s business but you’re own that you’re gay” and there are MILLIONS of homosexual Christians out there. Ick. I will never understand how people like you exist on this Earth.

    • This is not my opinion, it is what God says on the subject. As a Christian, I am commanded by God in Matthew 28 to “Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all things that I have commanded you;” This is the Christians call to share the gospel. The gospel message is simple this: We are all sinners. None of us are OK the way we are. For that reason Christ came to live among us as both fully God and fully man. He lived a sinless life and suffered and died on the cross as payment for our sins. On the third day He rose from the dead. In so doing, our sins can be forgiven if we believe in Him. To deny the sinful nature of man is to deny the very nature of the gospel message. I will not cheapen the work of Christ by saying we are all OK the way we are. We are all sinners. You, I, and the rest of mankind. It took a brutal death on a cross to rescue us from ourselves. We are sinful by nature, but God loves us so deeply that he wasn’t willing to leave us there. He sent his Son to rescue us. That is the gospel message and the hope of scripture. If this is “hate filled garbage” then your issue is with God, not me.

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