So in researching this topic I discovered something. Gay marriage is not in the bible, anywhere. When homosexuality is mentioned, it speaks of the act of homosexual sex, not marriage. Hummmm I thought the bible was clear on this point. Maybe we need to take another look. If the bible is silent on an issue, does that mean it condones it? Of course not. Silence tells us nothing. When the bible is silent on a large issue, the way to discover truth is to break it down into its parts and see if you can find something it does speak on. Sometimes the bible is silent because the problem didn’t exist at the time. That’s why we don’t have verses on the dangers of texting and driving….. Is gay marriage a new idea then? According to wikipedia it has been around for a long time. (en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Same-sex_marriage) It is debatable that the writers of the bible were aware of it however. That leaves us still asking the question. What does the bible say on this issue? Let’s break it down into its parts and see what we find.
Truth Test 1 : What does the bible say about marriage?
“For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man”. (Romans 7:2, 3 NKJV)
Marriage is life long.
“But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion”. (I Corinthians 7:8, 9 NKJV)
Marriage is the only righteous way to experience sex.
“Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge”. (Hebrews 13:4 NKJV)
Marriage should be honored and partners should remain faithful to each other.
Truth Test 2: When marriage is mentioned in the bible, who is it between?
“………..And he gave him as a wife Asenath, the daughter of Poti-Pherah………”(Genesis 41:45 NKJV)
“Now the men of Israel had sworn an oath at Mizpah, saying, “None of us shall give his daughter to Benjamin as a wife.” ” (Judges 21:1 NKJV)
There are many more examples, but each one is between one man and one woman, or one man and multiple women. Now here is a problem. Not all marriages listed in the bible are righteous. We know that polygamy is sinful, but David, Jacob, and, Solomon to name a few had multiple wives. “And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines; and his wives turned away his heart”. (I Kings 11:3, 4 NKJV) Just because it’s listed in the bible doesn’t make it right or wrong. We have to keep digging.
Perhaps we can find an answer by looking at the role of marriage.
Truth Test 3: What does marriage do? What is its purpose?
As we discovered earlier, marriage is a life long commitment to another person. Homosexual and heterosexual relationships can both fulfill that role.
Marriage produces children. Ah. Here is something. Homosexual relationships can’t produce children. It must then be sinful. “Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had borne him no children”. (Genesis 16:1 NKJV) Be careful of this argument. Many good God fearing people just simply can’t have kids. That doesn’t make their marriage sinful.
Marriage is for sexual intimacy…….. Ok, we may be on to something. The bible does speak about homosexual sex. As we have seen in previous posts, homosexual sex is sinful. ” But heterosexual marriages are full of adultery, and others abuses that are also sinful”. That’s true, but adultery is when a marriage goes wrong. Sex with your spouse is when marriages go right. It’s a part of what marriages are. Sex with your spouse is one of the greatest joys of marriage, and it cannot be separated from a definition of it. Sex and marriage are closely tied in scripture. It speaks of sex for procreation “Now Adam knew Eve his wife, and she conceived and bore Cain” (Genesis 4:1 NKJV) and for fun and intimacy. (Song of Solomon……the entire book) With this close connection of sex and marriage, homosexual marriages would have to include sex in order to fulfill its purpose. This is why I believe gay marriage is sinful. In order to exist it must include sin.
Truth Test 4: Should gay marriage be legal?
Just because something is sinful doesn’t mean it should be illegal. However, I’m not certain it’s the governments place to redefine something as old as marriage. Since the current debate includes politics, I have to ask. What is the biblical purpose of government? “For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to evil. Do you want to be unafraid of the authority? Do what is good, and you will have praise from the same. For he is God’s minister to you for good. But if you do evil, be afraid; for he does not bear the sword in vain; for he is God’s minister, an avenger to execute wrath on him who practices evil”.(Romans 13:3, 4 NKJV) It sounds like the governments role is an enforcer of morality, not the creator of it.
This last portion is purely my opinion, but I felt it necessary to include it. Should homosexual couples enjoy the same legal status as the rest of us? First of all, I don’t think the government should be in the marrying business. I cringe when I hear “By the power vested in me by the state of…..”. As if the state has a say in a covenant between two people and God. I do believe that the government should be in the civil union business, and I do think homosexual couples should be allowed to get a civil union. This gives them protections under law that I believe are good, such as a say in end of life care and the like. I’m not singling homosexuals out here. I think all marriages should be civil unions in the eyes of the government. Let the power of declaring a marriage be in the hands of the church. With that said, if the church does not recognize a marriage on the basis of sexual orientation, the government should not force them to recognize it either. Please leave a comment. This is a topic that needs to be debated.